Gretchen Rubin, the writer of The Happiness Project, says that one of the things you can do to help create your own commandments is to think of phrases that have stuck with you. This commandment is courtesy of my dad. I would actually call this my dad's catch phrase. I mean, if someone were to come up to me and ask me what my dad's parenting phrase was, I'd say this...
"Act as if."
...which I guess is very similar to "fake it til you make it."
There have been a few times in my life when I've found myself in really uncomfortable situations, and I remembered and used my dad's words, and it changed the situation completely.
There's much more to that story, and I met one of my dearest friends that night, and we're still in touch after all these years, but that's an entire post in and of itself, so that'll wait for another time.
To be honest, I was petrified--what if I got lost? What if I couldn't read a sign or failed to get off the train at the right place? How would I communicate and get myself back on track? No one knew that I was having these thoughts. I had already decided that I wasn't going to let the worry get the best of me. I said only positive things, and my demeanor followed suit. It ended up being a fun adventure.
So, here's the bottom line...If you don't want to do something, act as if you do. If you don't particularly care for someone, act as if you do. The amazing thing is, from what I've experienced with this rule, if you can make yourself believe it, it comes to pass.