I finally did it! I took some pages of my blog and made them into a book. It's been something I've wanted to do for a long time. It took me two days, and it ended up being around 60 pages long. As I reviewed it, I ran across a few things I'd forgotten about.
We had stake conference in April of 2008. At that time, a woman in our stake said something along the lines of pride cannot exist where gratitude is. Those weren't her exact words, but regardless, the idea was what was important.
This morning, I went searching for a quote from a General Conference or something so that I could find the exact quote. I was unsuccessful, but I found a very interesting source of similar information. I found the notes from a discussion that took place among the physics staff at BYU-Idaho. Did you get that? The physics staff. I LOVE that!
Here is a link to the site where I found it. I've copied portions of it here because I feel that there is much to be learned from it....
"How do we avoid pride?"
- Associating with "different people outside our bubble." Pride is building oneself up compared to others. Reaching out to everyone keeps us humble.
- No one is above another. Teachers are not any better than students. We are all equal in God's eyes; shouldn't we be in our own eyes too?
- We are here to serve. When you serve, it means you love your fellowman and want to see him/her succeed.
- "Keeping an attitude of gratitude will help us avoid getting prideful." Sometimes we need to step back and remember where we came from and be grateful for just what we have in life.
The steps of the pride cycle (The physics department only touch on two of these steps, but the other two are pretty self-explanatory):
1st step - ProsperityWhen people prosper and do well, pride creeps in, and we forget the Lord and where our blessings really come from.
In reality, with extra blessings comes the responsibility to share more. Give to others more freely.
Each day, I need to step outside of myself and serve someone else unselfishly. I need to keep this perspective and pray for these opportunities. When I feel that tug, I need to just do it and not question it.
2nd step - Lifting ourselves above others
As we prosper, we start lifting ourselves above others, we forget, and we even grow to despise those who need us. Remember to praise the Lord, and "recognize how much he helps and blesses us everyday." When we treat each other this way, "we can more fully feel His love."
"The antidote of pride is charity....The scriptures teach that charity has a number of characteristics ( Corinthians :1-13; Moroni 7:44-45). We can tell if we have charity by how the feelings of our heart and our actions match up with the characteristics noted in these scriptures":
- Suffer long - be patient, endure well
- Be kind
- Don't envy or be jealous of others
- Don't brag
- Don't become big headed
- Don't act or think inappropriately
- Be unselfish
- Seek out others that are different from you. Love and serve them.
- Choose not to be provoked by things that might make you angry or frustrated
- Dwell on all the good that surrounds you
- Don't delight in sin or the failure of others
- Be grateful for the truth and seek out more of it
- Believe, knowing that all good things come from God--recognize His hand
- Do your best no matter what circumstances you might find yourself in
- Be grateful even in the hardest of times
- Be meek (easily imposed on) - be ready to jump in and help anyone at any time
- Have a "broken heart" and a "contrite spirit" - continually seek to do better than you did yesterday.
We need to identify pride and its effects in our daily lives. Work together with and encourage others. Together, we can help each other achieve great things and help others grow and feel the Lord's love as we serve them.
Of course, I took a lot of the BYU-I physics department's ideas and edited them here, but I thought they were SO good.
I know when I'm being prideful. I feel like I get a little warning in my heart, but I, at times, ignore it and do the prideful thing anyway. I'm going to work on heeding those little tuggings in my heart better.